Some Photos and Quick Update

The Girls

Michael McAlister Stewart II

Touching something squishy!

I meant to put up some photos from our trip to Tulsa and forgot. One is the newest addition to the Stewart family (Carissa's family), Michael McAlister Stewart II. He is such a doll! The others are from the Oklahoma Aquarium.

In other news, we went to the OB today for an ultrasound and check-up. No real exciting news to share. My fluid levels looks good. It's a little higher than it was two weeks ago but still well within the "normal" range. Avery weighs about 3 1/2 pounds which is right on target. We got some really good 3D pics of her. I will try to get those on here ASAP.

Trip Out of Town

Even though it was only for a day, it was really really nice to be in different surroundings! On Sunday our family headed to Tulsa, OK to visit some of my family members and just get our minds off everything that has been going on. It was great to see my family as well as meet our newest Stewart addition...Michael McAlister Stewart! He is such and doll! After visiting with family, we went to the Oklahoma Aquarium. Kaitlyn loved it (and Shane did too). For a moment, it seemed like life was just normal. No talk of doctor appointments or thoughts of what is to come. Just plain fun and lots of smiles.

Tomorrow, it is more doctor appointments and thoughts of what is to come. We have an ultrasound at 10:30am and then an appointment with my OB, Dr. Duke. I will be 32 weeks on Friday and it is pretty hard to believe how quickly we have moved through this pregnancy. Hopefully all is well. Rather than feeling excited about getting to see Avery, I dread each appointment in fear that I am going to hear more bad news.

In other news, I had a comical conversation with Kaitlyn this morning. Let me preface by saying that Kaitlyn has wavy hair that likes to collect tangles. Most mornings she cries while I try to brush. It is not fun! Well, this morning I said enough. We are going to get your hair cut today. Less tangles and besides, it's almost summer. So I say to her, "I think it would be a good idea if we get your hair trimmed today." She looks at me like I just stole her every breath of happiness and replies, "You are ruining my life!" She crossed her arms and ran out of our bedroom in tears. Shane and I looked at each other and tried really hard not to laugh! I have a 13-year-old in a 5-year-old body! Anyways, she got her hair cut and loves it. I will post some pictures in the next couple days.

Story of my Life

I got this quote from my friend Jody's blog and I just had to share it with all of you. These words pretty much sum up my life right now.

“Concretely, abandonment to the will of God consists of finding HIS
purpose for you in all the people, events, and circumstances you
encounter. If God tears up your beautiful game plan and leads you
into a valley instead of onto a mountaintop, it is because He wants
you to discover HIS plan, which is more beautiful than anything you
or I could have dreamed up. The response of trust is “Thank you,
Jesus,” even if it is said through clenched teeth.”

It's Cold...Again!

My favorite time of year is fall. Now in at a close second is spring. The only problem is that spring is the biggest tease ever! One day it's beautiful and the next day it is cold and windy. Today it is cold and windy...did you ever notice how after a couple of warm sunny days, the cold days seem even colder? Oh well. I don't have much to report as far as the baby goes. I went to my OB here in town last week and all the basics are looking good. We have an appointment next Thursday for an ultrasound. Docs just want to keep a close eye on my fluid levels.



Shane and I continue to have good days and not so good days. Sometimes tears come when we aren't expecting them and that's ok. I think that it is sinking in more that things are not going to just be ok. "It will be ok" tends to be my response to many of life's challenges. In this case, that phrase is not so helpful. It is hard sometimes to remind myself of all that is going on. All day long I field questions like "When is your baby due?" and "What are you having?" I just smile and answer and try to remain calm. I guess I just try to pretend that everything is normal. That way I don't fall apart when someone asks me questions about my baby. Then when I come home and I don't have to pretend anymore, I lose it. It's such a roller coaster of emotions. I look normal, I feel normal, but baby is not normal. It just sucks.



I've worked the past two days so today I am enjoying some down time. The house is quiet and I might just take a nap :).

What A Lovely Day

Today was a fab day! The sun was shining and it was warm and I am just so happy that spring is around the corner! I got to have lunch with one of my sweetest friends. I felt like I could have talked to her all day. I walked outside and took Kaitlyn to the park to have a picnic with friends. I am so grateful for the numerous friends that I have made over the last five years we have lived in Fayetteville. I NEVER would have guessed that I would grow to love this area so much. Five years ago, all I could think about was getting back to Colorado...as fast as possible. So much has changed and I am content to hang here.


I am excited for a calm weekend!

The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

We had a big trip to Little Rock on Monday to meet with surgeons and OB. Shane and I left Kaitlyn in the care of fabulous friends and headed out on Sunday night. At 8:30 Monday morning we head to Arkansas Children's Hospital and met with the pediatric surgeon who will perform surgery on Avery's diaphragmatic hernia. Actually, we met with his nurse. She was great...probably better to talk with her than the very smart surgeon who does not speak in dumb people terms! No offense surgeons!! Next we were off to the NICU for a tour. This was by far the hardest part of the day. In a way, I am glad that we did it because I think we will be more prepared later but it was extremely difficult. We saw a baby that was on the "ECMO" machine. Quick explanation in dumb people terms: basically, ECMO is a heart/lung bypass machine that does all kinds of fancy things to help babies stabilize prior to surgery. At 12pm we met with the heart surgeon. He was great. Next, was the OB. We've seen him before so that visit was fairly easy. Ok, so around 3:30 we were out the door and on the road for a 3 hour drive back to Fayetteville. It was a super long day and one that we were glad to have conquered!



Ok, so the good news is that as of the ultrasound on Monday, Avery looks about as good as she could. For you CDH followers, her stomach and only a very small portion of the bowel are above the diaphragm. This is good news. For those not so familiar with CDH, the less number of organs above the diaphragm, the better. My amniotic fluid levels look good. We want those levels to stay in the low to mid teens. Anything towards the 20's creates problems. Mine was at 13. The last bit of good news is that we don't have to go back to Little Rock for awhile. My fluid levels can be monitored with my regular OB!



Ok, the bad news is that Avery has a small chance for survival. It is more likely that she will not make it. The combination of her CDH and particular heart defect are devastating to lung development and she will likely have very little lung tissue when she is born.



The ugly news is that Shane and I as well as our family and friends are really going to have to prepare to say goodbye to this little one. There is a chance that her lungs will be strong enough to avoid ECMO and remain only on ventilation. If this is the case, she may be strong enough to get through the hernia repair. She will then have to recover from that and look towards the heart surgery. It just does not look good.



After a long discussion with the heart surgeon, and with his expert opinion in mind, we have decided to not take aggressive measures to prolong Avery's life. Dr. Jaquiss (heart surgeon) believes that if she needs to be on ECMO, she will never get strong enough to do any kind of surgery. So that being said, she will not be placed on ECMO and will have to fight it out on her own. I would imagine that we will know in the first couple of days whether or not she will survive.



I know this all sounds like we have given up and I want to assure you that we have NOT. However, we are being realistic about the options and believe that this is what is best for Avery and our family. Hopefully, she will be strong and ready to fight. We are holding on tightly to those thoughts. Please stick with us through the next couple months. We are so encouraged by all of you!!

Back to Earth

Well, we are home safe and sound from our appointments in Little Rock. It was a very long and emotional day which produced a mixture of news. Today we are oddly calm and at peace with everything.

Both Shane and I took the day off to spend time with Kaitlyn. We both had a really hard time leaving her this time. It will be one of our greatest challenges as we travel over the next couple of months. I have lots of errands to do to catch up but I promise to spill all the details when I have a moments peace this afternoon.

Thanks for all the encouragment over the past few days!